I am so thankful I'm married to the person I'm married to. I'm not sure if it's our generation per se but hearing the way some wives wait hand and foot on their husbands makes me sick to my stomach. I'll never forget when I first met Ricky's family and the dynamics of his parents marriage. I felt like I was in some type of twilight zone. My father was a very sufficient man. He made his own plate, got his own glass of sweet tea, etc. My mom did do housework but she also didn't work outside the home. Anyway, it's interesting for me to speak to friends (all my friends are much older than I am) and hear them just talk about how they brought their husband dinner to the sofa, etc. I am such an independent strong willed person that I couldn't imagine being Ricky's servant. Ha, that makes me laugh just typing that! This lady here will always have a back bone.
With that being said, I'm so thankful I'm married to Ricky. If I allow him, he will help with whatever I ask. He helps get the kids ready for school, sometimes drops them off at school, will go to doctor appointments, washes all of our laundry, folds it, and puts it away, he works full time, will be starting school in June, and will even help with dinner. Writing it out it does seem like a lot but there is no other way things could run the way the do without his help. Luckily in our house we don't have the mentality of it's a man's job or a woman's job. If the air filters need to be changed and I can do it, I do. I love to mow the yard, and lets face it, it takes a lot to take care of three little ones. But we are a team. It's not divided and I couldn't imagine there being an expectation of slavery!
Anyway, today Ricky was a rock star! He took the girls to school, went by his school for some last minute paper work, and took Brody to his EEG test. The test was only suppose to take about 20 minutes but three hours later they were just heading home. Ricky had to get to work so the girls and I met him to exchange cars. I get so burn out going to the med center all the time and I really appreciate that he helps when I'm at that point.
We bought tickets to a baseball game in May. We are both really excited about that. We were going to take the kids but decided to go have fun and take some time away from them for a few hours. Momma is needing a vacation. It's been a year since we went to Key West and Miami and boy I can sure tell. There is nothing like getting away and recharging!
The past couple days I've been purging piles of stuff around here. Does one really need 10 blankets? No. I made a big trip to the donation center this afternoon. I'm really looking for a less is more balance. The hardest part is for me to get rid of the kids' toys. Maybe because it's not my stuff to get rid of and their stuff all looks brand new. I don't know but it's a weak point. I'm getting rid of crib sheets, my Coach diaper bag. Can't believe I'm parting with that but I didn't really ever use it and I don't use a diaper bag and never really did. Ricky and I are in desperate need of a wardrobe now that we've gotten rid of everything. We were laughing yesterday because we use to spend any tax return on new clothes. Ha, my how things have changed! We do buy clothes all the time but they are always size 18 months and always for certain toddlers! They get everything! If I have my way, I'll have half the house donated. Less is more.
A sweet look into our home:
Sometimes when Gracie is getting down from the table, she doesn't push her chair out enough and is caught between the table and the seat of the chair. Today the same thing happened to Brody. I didn't see it right away but I was wondering why Gracie was walking back into the kitchen so I watched her. She walked over to Brody's chair where he was stuck and pushed it out so he could get all the way down. How sweet is that ???? As soon as Brody was down he told her thank you and gave her a kiss. They never knew I was watching them. At dinner Gracie got stuck and without any hesitation, Brody walked over and pushed her chair out so she could get down. She said thank you and gave him a hug. These moments are all the confirmation I need that Ricky and I are doing our best raising these children. Love fills this home no matter what.
KP
